It’s not easy to accept the flaws we see in ourselves, even if we can accept that they are beautiful in someone else. If you’d like, I’d suggest you start by seeing the beauty in others, and try to translate that to yourself, as though you are viewing yourself through a neutral party’s eyes. Expose yourself to what you hate about yourself until it becomes beautiful.
Alternatively, it is not a requirement that you’re 100% in love with yourself all the time, or even ever. It is a struggle, and not everyone gets to where they fully accept themselves, and that’s okay. What’s most important is that you are as comfortable and happy as possible, whether that means tight, stretchy clothing, loose, oversized clothing, or anything in-between.
You are fabulous whether you show your VBO or not.